Sex, Herbs & World Peace DeAnna Carlile Alvarez
Sex is such an amazing topic. It gets everybody’s attention, no matter what age. Some are anxious to talk about it while others just cringe, hiding in shame or embarrassment. Somewhere in the middle are those that just have nothing to say about it.
The truth is that we are bombarded with all kinds of warnings regarding it or images insinuating it but few are really talking about sex in healthy and beneficial ways, and many really don’t know much about it to begin with. If only it were less taboo then more people would be getting more input and having much more fulfilling and satisfying sex lives. Here are a few facts you may not have known about sex:
1) Loving, clear and open communication is important to be able to deepen intimacy and gain confidence in each other’s desires. Many women remain largely uneducated about their bodies and about what gives them pleasure. For a woman to be able to tell her partner what she likes and dislikes is extremely empowering for her.
2) In women, the ability to orgasm (or 'come') has to be learned over a considerable period of time.
3) Many women have never experienced orgasm. But virtually any woman can have an orgasm - if her clitoris and/or g-spot is stimulated long enough and expertly enough. Furthermore, practically any woman should be able to have orgasms - and indeed multiple orgasms - if she really wants to.
4) Sexual pleasure-anxiety is anything that distracts you from your sexual focus and pulls your attention elsewhere. This is a sign of the number one limitation in enjoying sexual pleasure, like lack of sexual interest, performance fears, inability to have orgasms, or sexual addiction. We all have some sexual inhibition by virtue of having been raised in a society where sex is considered "dirty".
5) Sex can be an energetically healing experience, and when blockages are released through touch and love a person has the potential of reaching ecstatic states that liberate the spirit. This can be learned through Tantra.
6) Sexual dysfunction affects both men and women, with causes relating to financial problems, job worries, chronic anxiety, childcare responsibilities, religious or cultural beliefs. Other causes are physically rooted issues like fatigue, depression, high blood pressure, hormonal insufficiency, heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and more.
Talking about sex and sharing knowledge with others can greatly improve our sex lives. But knowing our bodies is essential to this; knowledge equals power. Once we figure out what we need, what we want and how to get it we open up doors of exploration and satisfaction that will empower us and bring tons of joy and healing to our lives.
Aphrodisiacs like strawberries and chocolate can be an exciting and creative addition to a healthy sex life, but when the body is in need of physical healing we need to deal with these issues first. That’s where herbs can help, like saw palmetto for hormone balance, damiana for anxiety, or chaste tree for pituitary function. But in order to achieve results these must be used over a long term.
Before reaching for these, though, we need to ask ourselves what other physiological factors may be causing the dysfunction, which may be secondary to issues like decreased circulation, depression, anxiety, certain prescription medications, and more. For example, long-term use of the birth control pill can decrease your libido, sexual enjoyment and lubrication due to how the pill acts directly on a woman’s sexual hormone levels. Most recently it was discovered that even after its use is suspended it continues to negatively affect the libido in the long run. So get to the root of the problem before moving forward with any herbal treatment, and consult with a professional. Herbal treatments can be extremely powerful with adverse side effects depending on the individual.
Sexual ignorance and sexual problems in both men and women are rampant all over the world and the causes are numerous. It’s pretty incredible considering how much weight is put on the sexual experience. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that sex is at the root of the human experience, right there with love, both full of healing and empowering possibilities.
So know yourself, take care of your body, talk about it and know that more sex can mean a healthier world, which means a happier world and in turn, a more peaceful planet. Now there’s a secret to world peace!
The truth is that we are bombarded with all kinds of warnings regarding it or images insinuating it but few are really talking about sex in healthy and beneficial ways, and many really don’t know much about it to begin with. If only it were less taboo then more people would be getting more input and having much more fulfilling and satisfying sex lives. Here are a few facts you may not have known about sex:
1) Loving, clear and open communication is important to be able to deepen intimacy and gain confidence in each other’s desires. Many women remain largely uneducated about their bodies and about what gives them pleasure. For a woman to be able to tell her partner what she likes and dislikes is extremely empowering for her.
2) In women, the ability to orgasm (or 'come') has to be learned over a considerable period of time.
3) Many women have never experienced orgasm. But virtually any woman can have an orgasm - if her clitoris and/or g-spot is stimulated long enough and expertly enough. Furthermore, practically any woman should be able to have orgasms - and indeed multiple orgasms - if she really wants to.
4) Sexual pleasure-anxiety is anything that distracts you from your sexual focus and pulls your attention elsewhere. This is a sign of the number one limitation in enjoying sexual pleasure, like lack of sexual interest, performance fears, inability to have orgasms, or sexual addiction. We all have some sexual inhibition by virtue of having been raised in a society where sex is considered "dirty".
5) Sex can be an energetically healing experience, and when blockages are released through touch and love a person has the potential of reaching ecstatic states that liberate the spirit. This can be learned through Tantra.
6) Sexual dysfunction affects both men and women, with causes relating to financial problems, job worries, chronic anxiety, childcare responsibilities, religious or cultural beliefs. Other causes are physically rooted issues like fatigue, depression, high blood pressure, hormonal insufficiency, heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and more.
Talking about sex and sharing knowledge with others can greatly improve our sex lives. But knowing our bodies is essential to this; knowledge equals power. Once we figure out what we need, what we want and how to get it we open up doors of exploration and satisfaction that will empower us and bring tons of joy and healing to our lives.
Aphrodisiacs like strawberries and chocolate can be an exciting and creative addition to a healthy sex life, but when the body is in need of physical healing we need to deal with these issues first. That’s where herbs can help, like saw palmetto for hormone balance, damiana for anxiety, or chaste tree for pituitary function. But in order to achieve results these must be used over a long term.
Before reaching for these, though, we need to ask ourselves what other physiological factors may be causing the dysfunction, which may be secondary to issues like decreased circulation, depression, anxiety, certain prescription medications, and more. For example, long-term use of the birth control pill can decrease your libido, sexual enjoyment and lubrication due to how the pill acts directly on a woman’s sexual hormone levels. Most recently it was discovered that even after its use is suspended it continues to negatively affect the libido in the long run. So get to the root of the problem before moving forward with any herbal treatment, and consult with a professional. Herbal treatments can be extremely powerful with adverse side effects depending on the individual.
Sexual ignorance and sexual problems in both men and women are rampant all over the world and the causes are numerous. It’s pretty incredible considering how much weight is put on the sexual experience. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that sex is at the root of the human experience, right there with love, both full of healing and empowering possibilities.
So know yourself, take care of your body, talk about it and know that more sex can mean a healthier world, which means a happier world and in turn, a more peaceful planet. Now there’s a secret to world peace!